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Overlook an insult; Vengeance is not mine

Anyone know any impatient drivers? I do. And, frankly, they look kind of like this guy: Yesterday I read the story of a family in a fast-food drive-through line being verbally assaulted by an impatient driver in the car behind them, shouting at them to “Hurry up, (insert expletive topped off with the ‘N’ word here).”  … Continue reading

Seeing the good in others; God gives us worth

So Wednesday was my birthday, and I was at the beauty shop sitting in the comfy spinny chair describing to my stylist what I was wanting her to do to with my mess, I mean, hair. I was asking for just a few highlights, trying to stay conservative with the budget. She studied my dry, long-overdue … Continue reading

‘No unwholesome talk’ Use your words to build up, not tear down!

  Several years ago, I was sitting at my kitchen table with a friend after an energizing missions conference. I’m a missionary at heart and had heard about an exciting opportunity to go to southeast Asia with a group that works to empower women working to support their families and keep them safe from trafficking. I … Continue reading

Change the world and your marriage with random acts of kindness

So a few months ago, I was sitting in the Chik-Fil-A drive-thru line after a terrible week. My swollen eyes were red and stinging with each silent tear and my chest was feeling the crushing weight of a pile of bricks stacked ten feet high. All I wanted to do was crawl in bed and be done with my week, like ‘wake me … Continue reading

Avoid an argument? Dare ya!

Arguing sucks the life right out of me. Picture a full, brightly colored helium balloon suddenly start to lose air. Little by little, it deflates before your eyes as the air seeps out faster and faster until it drops completely to the ground, shriveled and flat. From this: To this: Can anyone relate? This week, as … Continue reading

Self assessment – do you dare?

So I still sheepishly remember that Easter Sunday a few years ago. We had two sick little boys who had been throwing up and the house was trashed with contents of four Easter baskets strewn from one end to the other. Literally. The floor was covered in fake grass, toys and candy. One of our boys had … Continue reading

Affected by the past? Childhood experiences affecting your marriage?

It took most of my marriage for me to understand that I was filtering my relationship with my husband through this lens. Because those sounds and sights were so deeply impactful, my brain interprets so many things as dangerous even when they are not. Continue reading

Leveling ‘Mount Expectations’ – How I nearly destroyed myself and my marriage

Expectations. That word has confused, justified, liberated and chained me over the years. It’s nearly destroyed me and my marriage. At the beginning, my expectations seemed quite endearing. There would be glorious breakfasts in bed. I would both serve and be served a perfect plate of hot scrambled eggs, chewy bacon, fluffy croissants and sweet, … Continue reading

I said yes to orphans in Africa – I got Celebrate Recovery

It was 1985 in small town USA and I was just a blonde-haired, pony tailed, freckle-face little thing watching one of our three tv channels thanks to the bunny ears sitting on top of the T.V. Even as an 8-year-old, the televised USA for Africa concert featuring all of our favorite ’80s voices just moved me. You remember … Continue reading

Dealing with a bully; accountability is love

My teen daughter has a bully. Oddly enough? At the moment, so do I. But after spending my childhood and much of my adulthood terrified of these intimidating people, I’ve finally reached a point in my life that I no longer live in fear of them or anyone. So that’s what I’m teaching my children to do, … Continue reading